If Not Now, Then When?
Tick, tock, tick, tock. That’s the sound of time passing by. Precious seconds in your lifetime. Are you filling them with the positive choices you’ve made for your life; choices to grow stronger in mind, body and spirit? I sure hope so. Even if you haven’t made those choices, that is a choice – a choice for the worse. If you just let life “happen” to you, chances are higher that you will not lead a life. You will lead an existence.
I have known people who have the “Glory Days Syndrome” – in other words, people who live their lives precariously based on their past. They often say, “I used to… ,” or, “I remember when I… .” They simply have nothing noteworthy to share about their lives in the present tense. Theirs is most likely a life filled with television, sleeping and the occasional family gathering on holidays. There are no more goals, no more accomplishments, no more personal growth. They become like a tree in winter.
Then there are people who suffer from the “You Are My Sunshine Syndrome.” These people live their lives through other people. Other people are truly the sunshine that makes their otherwise gloomy lives bearable. They get immersed in other people’s lives, especially family, and live precariously through them. They usually spend their time on the telephone talking about other people. Boundaries disappear, and they no longer respect another’s privacy.
There can be many reasons that cause people’s lives to come to a standstill. Some are physical illness, others are mental, while some can be spiritual. Whatever the reason might be, don’t ever give up on your life, your legacy. You might be alive for another 10, 20 or 30-some years, but you aren’t living, my friend. You are existing. Existing – just like that plant over in the corner.
Regardless of the reason, Father Time marches on. He waits for no one. Is your past enough for you to feel fulfilled today? Is someone else’s life enough to keep you occupied and busy? Is that your choice for your life? If not, and I can’t imagine why anyone would say, “yes,” here’s what you have to do:
1) Take stock of your abilities, talents, and interests. Make it a point to choose at least one thing that you will take action on; whether that be writing a poem, painting a picture, reading a book. Start small with one thing. Success breeds success and soon you’ll be growing in your own sunshine.
2) Determine what shape your body is in and what you can do to improve it. It doesn’t matter if you are limited in what you can do. Develop an exercise routine that makes you stronger. Eat healthier for overall wellness and weight management. The changes you see and feel are your accomplishments to enjoy in the present. They are you “right here and now.” Celebrate small improvements in healthy ways.
3) Meditate or pray. None of us can make it through this journey of life on our own. It is in times of meditation or prayer that we are open to the still, small voice that has great big things to impart. Be still and listen. Give thanks and be grateful. Spend this time thinking positively. Consciously turn away bad thoughts.
These are three choices that can help you start to get your life back if you’ve been derailed. Your life wasn’t given to you to be lived on the sidelines, through others, or in past tense. It was given to you to be present in the game; you, yourself; right now and every moment to come. Choose to truly live your life now, for it is short.